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Friday, December 15, 2006

Get Ready for Global Orgasm Day

December is not only a time to observe World Aids Day, Hanukah, Christmas, Kwanza, but it’s also the First Annual Solstice synchronized Global Orgasm Day planned for Friday, December 22nd, at the time and place of your choosing with or without a partner. The mission of the Global Orgasm is to effect change in the energy field of the Earth through input of the largest possible surge of human energy. The intent is that the participants concentrate any thoughts during and after orgasm on peace. I can’t think of a better reason to have sex than for World Peace! Can you?

This is how it works - the combination of high energy orgasmic energy combined with mindful intention may have even greater effect than previous mass meditations and prayers. If you want some scientific evidence on how a mass Global Orgasm might help bring about world peace, you’ll be pleased to know that the Global Consciousness Project (http://noosphere.princeton.edu), Princeton University, runs a network of Random Event Generators (REGs) around the world, which record changes in randomness during global events. The results show that human consciousness can be measured to have a global effect on matter and energy during widely-watched events such as 9/11 and the Indian Ocean tsunami. There have also been measurable results during mass meditations and prayers.

The Zero Point Field or Quantum Field surrounds and is part of everything in the universe. It can be affected by human consciousness, as can be seen when simple observation of a subatomic particle changes the particle’s state.

They hope that a huge influx of physical, mental and spiritual energy with conscious peaceful intent will not only show up on Princeton’s REGs, but will have profound positive effects that will change the violent state of the human world.

This is the first annual Solstice synchronized Global Orgasm for Peace, leading up to the December Solstice of 2012, when the Mayan calendar ends with a new beginning lead by Donna Sheehan 76 and Paul Reffell 55. They say that an orgasm brings on a meditative state, making it ideal for a person to focus their mind on peace at the same time. To find out more about this truly awe-inspiring event, which will forever be known as, the First Annual Solstice synchronized Global Orgasm for Peace, go to www.globalorgasm.org

Friday, December 01, 2006

World Aids Day

I wanted to contribute my time and some calls to action for World Aids Day. Since 1988, the annual World Aids Day has brought a theme in what everyone can do in terms of raising awareness and moving towards solving and alleviating the HIV/AIDS crisis. For World Aids Days on December 1, 2006, I have updated my Sexual Consent Form adding the necessity for practicing ‘”safer consensual sex.” You can print one out from: http://www.avacadell.com/dr_ava_says/your_sex_life/yoursexlife_index.htm

Past themes for World Aids Day have been subjects such as Sharing the Challenge; Aids and the Family; and One World, One Hope. Everyone can do something positive and productive, like finding out about organizations which are helping people suffering with Aids: Here’s one I wrote about in my November newsletter: http://www.empowermentworks.org/

Become a pen pal to someone with Aids and learn about what they are going through, whether it’s in your city or in other parts of the world, such as Africa, where Aids has literally devastated the culture and economies of that continent.

Become a volunteer at an Aids hospice and lend an empathetic ear to someone who needs your help. There is nothing more precious than giving time and unconditional friendship. The Safe Haven Project, a non-profit service learning organization, confronts the global need for knowledge, truth and compassion for people living with, or affected by, HIV/AIDS by designing and delivering multi-faceted service forums and unique learning opportunities focused on prevention, awareness and community outreach. http://www.safehavenproject.org/

Hold an Aids Aid holiday party and ask guests to bring appropriate gifts or donations for Aids patients so that you can give to charities or support groups. Here’s a directory of them: http://www.cellscience.com/HIVCharities.html

This holiday season, open up your heart and give to someone less fortunate than yourself. It feels even better to give than to receive!

Monday, November 13, 2006

Erotic Entertainment for Women

This week I attended the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, http://www.sexscience.org/ (the oldest professional society dedicated to the advancement of knowledge about sexuality) to study for my continuing education credits to maintain my certification with AASECT (http://www.aasect.org/). The conference was open for sexual researchers, therapists, counselors and educators, held in the perfect location; Las Vegas. Though I enjoyed many of the classes, especially the one about shame and sex, I made good time of my evenings by doing some extra curricula research on erotic entertainment for women.

We all know that there are plenty of strip clubs for men and even prostitution is legal in certain parts of Nevada, but I was thrilled to find out that now Sin City is offering some arousing options for women too. Don’t believe the myth that women aren't turned on visually because I’ve never seen so many out of control women screaming, pawing and acting in the same ways that men do at bachelor parties.

So the first night I went to see a show of hunky men from Australia called “ “Thunder from Downunder”, The highlight of the show was when one of the strippers jumped on my table and poured a bottle of beer over his almost naked hard body, drenching himself and my new leather pants.

There was no full nudity as I had hoped, but the show was titillating and the men were definitely above average. By comparison though, I prefer The Hollywood Men right here in L.A. It’s the best and raunchiest fully choreographed, male exotic show for ladies! http://www.hwmen.com/main.html and these guys take it all off! I had my picture taken with three of them; Scott, Rico and Austin when they were my guests on my radio show and as you can see, they are a woman’s TriGasmic fantasy!

Still on my journey for more research in Las Vegas, I checked out the men of the Sapphire Club http://www.menofsapphire.com/ and was told that there was a show that included stage performances, as well as personal one-on-one entertainment. Now that sounded perfect for my study, so I watched one gorgeous man after another pondering which one to choose for my private lap dance session. After seeing an Italian ex Mr. Universe Rico Elbaz dance and peel off his crisp white navy uniform to expose his rippling body, my mind was made up. If you’re going to get a lap dance, it might as well be with the best. I had to wait patiently while shrieking women swarmed the stage for a signed copy of his calendar and then it was my turn to have him all to myself.

I’m not going to reveal all the juicy details of my first male lap dance, but I’m happy to report that it was a great fantasy turned into reality with one of the most beautiful Adonis’s I have ever set eyes on. You can check him out for yourself at http://www.ricoelbaz.com/welcome.htm

In summary, why shouldn’t women enjoy watching live erotic entertainment as much as men? In this time of equal opportunity, we deserve to live out our fantasies, ask for what we want and receive it without any feelings of guilt or shame.

Friday, September 15, 2006

Fantasy Role-Playing

With Halloween just around the corner, I wanted to come up with something imaginative and erotic for couples to play whether planning to go out or stay in. There’s a lot of pressure to come with a new character, dress up and role-play each year and it can get pretty pricey to go out and buy a new costume annually.

So I created a deck of Role Playing Fantasy cards with 26 Male, 26 Female and one Joker card, so there are enough fantasies to be fulfilled for an entire year if you choose a new one every a week.

Just imagine this as one of your own personal sex toys, capable of enhancing your relationship by expanding your sensual and sexual activities together.

How to Play

Pick a Fantasy Role Playing card for yourself or let your lover pick one for you. The choice is yours. Female cards include, a naughty School Girl, French Maid, Nurse or Cat Woman. Guys can choose from being a Knight in Shining Armor to a roguish Cowboy, Convict or Pimp. Once you’ve got your card in your hot little hands, there’s no turning back. Gather as many accessories as you can for your fantasy because the more props you have the easier it will be to get into character. Of course you may not have some specific props such as a shield for the Gladiator, but you can improvise by using a tray. Santa and Santa’s Sexy Helper require mistletoe, but you can use parsley or mint instead. The Dominatrix needs a paddle, but you can use a spatula for spanking just as well. Use your imagination to create your role playing fantasy character. Even more important than accessories is your attitude, which is why I added five other categories to help you live out your fantasy; When, Why, Where, How and Body Language. Pretend that you love being your chosen character by thinking, feeling and doing the things that this character would do to a lover.

The Goal

The goal is for the two of you to experience as many role playing characters as you can through the Fantasy Role Playing cards and have fun doing it. When couples role play together and act out each other’s fantasies, they gain a better understanding of what the other wants, needs, desires and fears. Couples can improve their communication, take their relationship to a higher level of intimacy and expand their sexual horizons.

Role playing sexual fantasies is healthy, fun and natural for couples dating or for those in a committed relationship of any orientation. Fantasies can rekindle passion, raise a diminished libido, boost intimacy, are an exciting avenue of escape, heighten enjoyment of sex, opens you up to new activities and can turn sex into adult play.

There are no losers in this game, only winners!

And you can have a Happy Halloween anytime.

Wednesday, August 30, 2006

Pet's Rule

Charlie, my Ragdoll cat and I anxiously awaited Romeo’s return from his expensive six weeks doggie boot camp. I was surprised that Charlie missed him so much. While Romeo was gone, Charlie would wonder around the house meowing and looking for him aimlessly. Romeo and his trainer were going to arrive at 2:30 PM in the afternoon so I took the time off work and came home early. As I was driving into my garage, I noticed two little Chihuahuas in the street, so avoiding hitting them; I took them into my house and called the number on one of their collars. They belonged to Paris Hilton, my neighbor who didn’t even know they were gone. The dogs terrorized Charlie all over the house, chewed on Romeo’s toys and had a great time playing until one of Paris’s staff showed up to pick them up. I’m not going to condemn Paris for her doggie parenting skills, even though she was voted Worlds Worst Dog Owner in 2005, in a poll conducted by the New York Dog and the Hollywood Dog Magazine, because I would probably be voted the worst in 2006 with my inability to control my Pomeranian Romeo.

At last Romeo showed up looking as excited as Charlie and I. He wagged his tail, kissed me, ignored poor Charlie who was trying to kiss him, but he did have a big smile on his face. I can always tell when Romeo is smiling. His trainer said that he was rehabilitated now. There would be no more growling, dominant behavior and he was going to obey my commands. That was a week ago. Here’s the good news; Most of the time he obeys simple commands like, “sit, come, and lie down” but only reluctantly. He still begs for food, barks for no apparent reason and here’s the really bad news; I think he is now punishing me for sending him away by reverting back to his early days when he wasn’t house broken. Every day I find a new “surprise” from Romeo and it’s not a pretty sight. So, now I wonder if his training has made him more even more dominant and rebellious!

Monday, August 07, 2006

Blog Excuses

I have lots of excuses for neglecting my blog; I was invited to the island of St. John to stay at the beautiful honeymoon resort of Caneel Bay where I gave relationship enrichment seminars to couples, then I went to Las Vegas to lecture to patients recovering from brain surgery on intimacy after illness, then I got busy in LA at the Adult Manufacturers Expo where I promoted my products for three days, all the while balancing private clients, media interviews, quality time with my family and friends, and then there was the big decision that I had to make regarding my rescue dog, Romeo. I've had him for five years now and he's so adorable, most of the time, but every now and again he can turn into a little monster, disobey commands, snap, even mess in the house. I've taken him to trainers before, but he always resorted to going back to his old ways. For a Pomeranian, he has the dominant personality of a German shepherd. Truth be told, I have become afraid of him in the last few months. When it's time for his walk, if Romeo is being defiant, he'll hide under furniture and when I approach him with his leash, he'll snap at me. Even with my quick reflexes from my Karate training, I have had bloody fingers and toes from his little but deadly fangs. The last straw was when my Ragdoll cat Charlie jumped off my bed in the middle of the night and scared Romeo, who was sleeping on the floor, and then Romeo woke me up with his growling as he attacked Charlie and got a big chunk of his fur in his mouth. Luckily Charlie got away but if he wasn't so fluffy, Romeo could just as easily have gotten a chunk of skin. I tried to get the fur out of Romeo's mouth, but he wouldn't let me go near him. He looked at me with those ferocious eyes and growled through the fur as if to say, "Don't even think about it." So, I stayed awake for an hour watching Romeo slowly chew all of the cat's fur and finally swallow it without choking. I could not get Romeo to go downstairs so I went downstairs myself looking for the cat. Charlie was traumatized so I spent all night consoling him. The next day, sleep deprived and frustrated with my own lack of control over my dog, I decided to contact another trainer. I called him up and told him my dilemma and read him a long list of Romeo’s issues.

The Good

Most of the time, he’s happy, friendly and loving towards everyone, he lets strangers pet him. I take him to work with me and he interacts positively with clients, and then lies under my desk quietly. He let’s everyone pet him and wags his tail and he loves filming TV shows. In fact he is really the star of my A & E profile, which you can see on my website.
He gets along with Charlie, the cat who has been with me for 12 years and he gets along with the office cat, Dino. Often we have all three at the office amicably.
Romeo is smart and has a good understanding of vocabulary including: sit, lie down, come, tummy tickle, kiss, high-five, yummy yummy (that’s his favorite word), let’s go bye bye, pee pee, good boy and No, just to name a few.
He loves riding in the car, sitting in his high chair while I pet him.
He loves going for walks, running, playing, he likes interacting with small dogs.
He always lets me clean him up if he has soiled himself.
He is well behaved at the vet and at the groomer.
He has never bitten a stranger.
He has breakfast between 6 & 6:30 AM and dinner around 5:00 PM. I have been feeding him Artemis dry food with chicken, turkey, salmon, fruits and vegetables. He won’t eat the canned food so I have been adding a little cooked chicken, ground beef or steak to his dry food. His favorite treats are original milk-bones with bone marrow and greenies.

The Bad

Romeo becomes a vicious monster when he has a bone or a Greenie in his mouth, if anyone tries to take it away from him, he will bite them.
When Romeo sleeps, if woken he will growl and snap at anyone including the cat who sometimes jumps off the bed and startles him.
Sometimes I have to bribe Romeo to move from one room to another with treats, but recently he won’t move, even for a treat. I’m too afraid to pick him up in case he bites me, since he has a fearful look on his face.
Romeo is afraid of certain rooms and steps, floor surfaces like wood or marble. He will walk carefully backwards until he is out of the room with these surfaces.
Romeo will not always obey commands unless he sees a treat first.
Romeo is obsessed with licking feet. All feet!
Romeo has frequent erections, humps people and licks himself.
Romeo lifts his leg and pees over a dozen times during one walk.
Romeo doesn’t heel when we walk. He pulls on his leash, sometime just stops.
Romeo antagonizes other dogs (especially big ones) by growling and kicking dirt up with his hind legs.
Romeo still occasionally pees and poops in the house.
When Romeo is called, sometimes he obeys, sometimes he does a death march and sometimes he just won’t budge.
I take him to restaurants and feed him people food, also at home because he begs and I can’t resist.
Health issues include recurring diarrhea (probably from the treats and human food), scooting (clogged anal glands), constipation, back pain from when he fell off my bed and his x-rays show some spinal degeneration.

My Objectives

I would like to enjoy him without any fear of him biting me or anyone else.
I would like him to obey when called so that I don’t have to bribe him with food.
I would still like to spoil him, tickle his tummy (which he requests often), cuddle him and take him with me where ever I can as part of the family without worry.

My Concerns

1. Romeo has never stayed in a kennel before I’m concerned that he’ll feel like I’m abandoning him.
2. Romeo will behave perfectly with a trainer, but when he comes back home, he will go back to his old ways.
3. I have always been affectionate with him, allowed him on the bed, played, tickled him, allowed him to lick and kiss me. Am I to suddenly disallow this and how will that affect him?
4. How can I be assured that he will obey my commands?
5. What if the people around him don’t change their behavior towards him? Will his training still be successful or not?

The trainer told me that Romeo was like a bomb waiting to explode and that I had to hand him over for boot camp training for several weeks or months if I wanted to live in harmony with my dog. The fee for such training was over $4,000 and even though there was no guarantee, I had no choice. I could not let Romeo, the Pomeranian rule my life. So, the following day I took my little red haired buddy to the kennel and dropped him off for doggie boot camp. I miss taking him to the office with me and walking around the block for exercise, sharing a sorbet on hot day and tickling his tummy whenever he requests it. I feel like a doggie-mommy failure and I've been told that I spoiled him too much, treated him like a human so he didn't respect me. He's been gone almost three weeks now and I'm only supposed to visit him once a week because it causes too much anxiety, for me not the dog. I'm hoping that he'll come back having learned some valuable doggie lessons like not biting people and obeying simple orders like "come."

Tuesday, May 09, 2006

Loveology University

More and more I’m being asked if I can point women in the right direction to attend classes where they can get further insight on women's health, sexuality, enhancing and improving relationships. They’re hungry for information to use to enrich their own lives and many want to offer professional help to others, woman to woman!

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